Monday, June 22, 2009

Life and death

April started what seemed to be chain reaction of deaths in my family.

In April my Aunt Pudge, who taught me Belmont by going to yard sales every weekend as a child, lost her battle with cancer.

In May my great Aunt Theresa and great Aunt Millie both passed in their sleep. Both were well into their 90s.

Then totally unexpected my cousin Jim passed away at the beginning of June - one day after his daughters 17th birthday. Unfortunately she is the one who found him.

With so many deaths in the family, it makes you stop and think how quickly people enter and leave our lives. Some are expected and others aren't.

Game or puzzle

People like to compare life to a game. You know how is starts, you know how you got where you are, you know where you need to be but do not know if you can make it happen. There are winners and there are losers.

I would rather look at my life as a huge puzzle that is not even half finished. I have the foundation built but the center needs filled in. The pieces are all within reach. It is just a matter of fitting them where they belong at the right time.

I continue to strive towards changing the direction my life is headed. Ben and I have decided to move in together. I have basically been moving for the last month. I go to my apartment a few nights a week and get little things and take them to where I consider home. This past weekend we finished moving my furniture to storage. It will stay there for a couple of months until we move again.

The boys are aware I am moving. The comment I received was as long as that is what you want. All I do know right now is that I am pretty happy with my relationship with Ben and we will see how things go with living together.

I do know that no matter what happens with Ben and I that I have grown a lot in the last year and continue to. I have always been a strong person but for some reason I let others who love me take advantage of me. I am not going to allow that to happen again. I am learning from my mistakes.

I am thankful for the loving family and friends I have in my life.